Picture
this. A thirty five year old well-educated, well settled person is busy in his
hectic office and personal life. His parents stay in a small town that he grew
up in. He takes care of all the needs of his parents. But what they need is not the money or materialistic wealth that he sends, but a few warm words stating
that he still values them and misses them too. But who has the time to call up
parents and ask them about what they had for dinner last night or if the old
father is taking his medicines on time.
Picture
this too. A teenage girl is stopped by his mother from going for late night
parties or to her friend’s house by her mother again and again. The girl feels
that her mother is overly strict and has problems with everything she does and gets increasingly irritated by her mother.
How
about picturing this? A son hardly talks to his father replying him in
monosyllables. The father believes that it is because his son is too arrogant
to even acknowledge his presence or that he doesn’t even bother to reply him
coherently. In reality, the son is an introvert who finds it difficult to
express his feelings but finds his father's presence comforting.
And
finally why don’t you picture this? There is a small tiff between lovers and they stop talking for days. Individual egos
restrict them to come back to each other even though they terribly miss each
other. One thing leads to another and the relationship breaks since none of
them took the leap to convey the other person their feelings.
Do
you see a similarity in all these cases? May be you guessed it. Yes, it is communication.
Rather, lack of it.
‘Communication
is the key to the survival of any relationship’ - is one of the most clichéd lines
I have ever heard and yet it stands true to its every word. Lack of it can wreak havoc on any
relationship. Everybody knows this and yet how many of us follow this. In all
the examples above, lack of time, inability to express feelings and ego became
the medium of this thing called ‘lack of communication’. (Yes, I know I sound
like those relationship experts but am I not correct here?)
For
the heck of saying, today we are connected with people around the world 24*7.
Yes, technically we are. But all this time, while we were getting connected
with strangers across the continents, we probably forgot connecting with our
own near and dear ones.
So,
when it is being asked if my phone had a superpower, I can think of nothing better but this special power inside my phone that when held close to my heart would
let the person I am thinking about know that I am missing them and that I value them or that I am
worried about them or that I love them.
In
all the examples above, how wonderful it would be if the parents would
receive a ping from their super busy son when he thinks about the backyard
garden where he played with his father. Or how relieved would the mother be if she
knew that her daughter understands her concern everytime she is out late at night. Wouldn’t the father find more time to spend with his introvert son who
needs his help everytime he is stuck up in a situation? And that relationship
which broke-up because none of the two people who though terribly missed each
other took the plunge of just picking up the phone and talking, wouldn’t it have
been beautiful when both of them received pings when the other person missed them.
As
for me, how badly I wish that when I am in middle of a meeting, and I think
about my mother for a flash of a second and my phone would let her know that
even though I don’t have the time to call her up from my office, I still miss
her. How I wish that when I see a group of friends having fun at a tea stall, I
remember my college times and my phone would let my best friend know that I
miss those times and that even though I don’t call quite often, the college memories
are still afresh in my mind.
Just
like me there are thousands of others who have probably got disconnected with
their near and dear ones due to this so-called thing known as ‘lack of
communication’. And this superpower phone could let their families and friends
know that they are being missed or that they are still valued and ofcourse loved
too.
Just
a simple mechanism and yet so powerful to make our lives so peaceful, so
beautiful - to read the heart, and to convey the words that are often lost in
chaotic pace today. How I wish my phone has this superpower !!
This
post is written for '#IncredibleZEN' contest organized by Indiblogger in
association with Asus-Zenfone.
