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I sit bewildered on my seat in my everyday bus wondering why my friend is not talking to me since past three days. I tried to make conversation a few times; only to be replied in monosyllables. I have scratched my head thinking about the possibilities that would have upset her. I couldn’t find any except the fact that I sat on her window seat the other day. (If you have read this post you would know what am I talking about) But that didn’t seem the reason enough for subjecting this silent treatment upon me. Frustrated, I asked her what was wrong with her? Don’t even ask me the stupid reason she gave me for her so-called three day ‘maunvrat’.
I don’t know, how many of you would agree to this post, but yes, I am ranting about the silent treatment people give you when they are angry/upset with you or with anything for that matter.
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Your husband forgets your birthday, you give him the silent treatment. Poor guy goes bonkers thinking what wrong he did this time. You see your girlfriend having a chat with another guy, you stop talking to her for next ten days till she develops dark circles around her eyes thinking what upset you so much. You are not studying properly or you don’t behave well in front of guests, Mother India gives you silent treatment till you circle around her for the day saying sorry for God knows what.
I mean what do people think when they start this ‘shut up’ spree and not talk for hours and days altogether with the person they are angry with. What is it that goes inside their minds behind subjecting poor people around them to the silent treatment? Will Godly powers descend on the other person and he/she would know by meditating as to what has angered or upset the other person so much? Or would they be able to read the mystic expressions that arise on the swollen face?
I mean, TALK, for God sake; Speak up what’s wrong. Scream and let the other person know what’s going on inside that brain which is churning negative thoughts at the moment.
I agree that when you are upset with somebody you don’t feel like talking to them. But what good does staying quiet give? Neither are you going to get the apology you are expecting nor is the other person ever going to realize what was the mistake on their part. So say whatever you want to say. May be when we are angry we never realize the effect our silence has on the people for whom our silence matters. It kind of shatters them. (Read the poetic version of this sentence here)
How many times have we read about the importance of communication in relationships? Yet, we fail to exercise the same when we get upset. I don’t know how many of you who read this would follow it but the next time you get upset with somebody, remember to let them know the reason about your being upset. It would save the other person from pulling their hair out with unnecessary guesswork and you from keeping the frown for a longer period of time.