It
is almost evening as I type this. I wrote about an inspirational woman here
during the Write Tribe Festival and hence, my mind was still searching for
clues to write upon for today’s theme. It is a weekend and my cheery mode was
on activation, especially with all the wonderful messages I received and posts
that I read for today. And
then, I received the following message in one of my Whatsapp groups:
HAPPY
MEN'S DAY!!!
For
the first time something on a MAN. Do read it...Who is a MAN?
A
man is the most beautiful part of God's creation who starts compromising at a
very tender age. He sacrifices his chocolates for his sister. He sacrifices his
dreams for just a smile on his parents face. He spends his entire pocket money
on buying gifts for the lady he loves just to see her smiling. He sacrifices
his full youth for his wife & children by working late at night without any
complain. He builds their future by taking loans from banks & repaying
them for lifetime. He struggles a lot
& still has to bear scolding from his mother, wife & boss. His life
finally ends up only by compromising for others' happiness.
BECHARA
MARD...!?
Agar
aurat par hath uthaye to besharam, aurat se maar khae to buzdil,
Aurat
ko kisi ke saat dekh ker ladai kare to jealous, chup rahe to darpok,
Ghar
se bahar rahe to aawara, ghar me rahe to naakara,
Bachhon
ko daante to zaalim, na daante to laparwah,
Aurat
ko naukari karane se roke to shak karne wala, aurat ko naukari karane se na rokey
to biwi ki kamai khane wala,
Maa
ki maane to chamcha, biwi ki sune to joru ka gulam..
Na
Jane Kab Aayega.. "HAPPY
MEN'S DAY” Respect every male in your life. You will never know what he has
sacrificed for you. Worth sending to every man to make him smile & every
woman to make her realize his worth!! HAPPY MEN'S DAY JO OFFICIALLY KABI NAHI
AAYEGA..
Had
it been any other day, I would have laughed it off adding some tongue showing
emoticons in the response. May be I would have taken this with a pinch of salt
and started a friendly Men vs. Women argument. May be I would not have even responded.
But
not today. Today, something irked me with the above message. I know the above
message was not against women per se. But today, when the world is celebrating the
women in their life, there was one man who thought of sending the above
message.
I
could have put up an equally strong and long message about the sacrifices women
make but I am sure it would have hurt my fingers typing such a huge list. And
an equally acerbic response to the way women are labeled and judged on whatever
they do. But no Sir. I did not do any such thing to avoid much hurt to my
delicate fingers who I thought should better be used for typing some wonderful
posts. And I just responded by saying that there is a special day dedicated for
men which is celebrated on 19th November every year and that the above
message was distasteful for today’s day.
I
was replied with a message that wasn’t it distasteful of me to think that we
should be celebrating womanhood only on a single day rather than everyday?
Oh,
what a wonderful thought it was!! So my response to this wonderful thought was
something that I read today from one of the fellow bloggers - that we live
every single day of our life, then why do we celebrate our birthday only once a
year? If there is a particular day dedicated to celebrating womanhood, why can’t
we just revel in it?
And
also the fact, that I celebrate the woman in me and wonderful women around me,
every single day. It’s just that today, along with ourselves, we give the
men around a chance to celebrate us.
I
don’t know why any joke on women today irked me. I even sent a disclaimer
warning to a dear friend saying that dare he irk me more today with jokes on
women, the HALO on my head would not take time to get converted into some
deadly HORNS ;)
It’s
not that I have not read such jokes on women before. Trust me, there are ample
of them and some are pretty creative too. I have laughed them off as well. May
be, I have even sent a few around myself. But, I really don’t know why could I
not take a joke on women today? I am not anti-men or something but today I just
couldn’t take a joke on me. Is it because I thought that why can’t there be even
a single day when women are not mocked about or something else, I really don’t know.
I
don’t even know if this post makes any sense on today’s occasion. Hope you had
a better celebration of Women’s Day. To all the lovely ladies out there, a
Happy Women’s Day to you.
This
post is written for the Write Tribe Festival of Words – Day 7. And
the theme was WOMEN.
Interesting interactions. You are right! Why not revel in it? :)
ReplyDeleteExactly Jyothi :)
DeleteDeep thoughts. Ya its sad women r not allowed to revel for even a single day. Newez...u dnt worry...calm down... Let ur hair down...n hv a great Women's Day for d remaining hours! :-)
ReplyDeleteExactly, Amrita.. what was the requirement of sending that message on a Women's Day..?? Yeah, I got really furious with that message.. But it got better with time :):)
DeleteAnd yes, we should celebrate everyday! Happy IWD
ReplyDeleteTotally, we should Michelle.. :) Belated IWD to you too..
DeleteDistasteful message!! I personally feel it's pointless that on one single day, men "celebrate" women, but treat them like shit (different degrees of shit, but shit nevertheless) on other days. And forget men's day or women's day, if there was something like "Gender Equality Day" or "Gender Equality Century", that would be worth something!
ReplyDeleteWhen we both rule the world, we should declare something like that ;)
Distasteful.. exactly..!! Shant gadadhaari bheem shant.. Meri teenage rebellion queen :P
Deletegood one.. Happy Women's Day.. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Meera.. Happy Women's Day to you too..:)
DeleteI hope this post reaches to the man who sent out that cheeky message. So good that you converted that into something like this! Happy IWD!
ReplyDeleteI hope so too Aditi ! Happy IWD to you too :)
DeleteYour post stands apart as it has different shades ....thanks for this refreshing post ....Happy Women's Day!
ReplyDeleteOh, thank you so much Sheela.. I thought it wouldnt be even making any sense on IWD..Happy IWD to you too :) Hope you had a good one !!
DeleteNicely written post-Surely different from most articles that would be written on the occasion,Best wishes
ReplyDeleteThanks Rajeev.. :):)
DeleteTotally interesting and different...HaPpy WoMEn's DAy !
ReplyDeleteThanks Ananya.. Happy Women's Day to you too :)
DeleteGot the same message, i agree to you on some parts and disagree too. I wouldn't take it as a joke on women,no. But seriously, why no "Men's day". We say about equality of genders and then sometimes act in a way that hampers the very motive of equality. I might be taking it in a different way. Having said this, i would really like you to read this:
ReplyDeletehttp://the-cheesy-engineer.blogspot.in/2013/09/the-dilemma.html
and share yours views. :)
belated, Happy IWD :)
Hi Aditya..I already mentioned in my post that the message sent to me was not against women per se.. I also mentioned in my post that there is Men's Day which is celebrated on November 19 every year.. I am not preaching here about equality or something ..my post didnt mention anything related to equality.. I was just disgusted with the 'Happy Men's Day' message being sent on 'Women's Day'.. !! Shall read your post soon !! Thank you :)
DeleteOkay so jokes on women of course get very weird. But then I have started to take them in my stride. And a happy women's day to you too!!
ReplyDeleteRicha
Yeah, I take them in my stride too.. But even on women's day.. :( Anyways, hope you had a great day Richa :)
DeleteYou always have one in the bunch that has to have his two cents. Still he is right about men on the most part. Just not sure it was appropriate to get all loud about it on a post that was celebrating women.
ReplyDeleteYes, there will always be people like that.. And yes, it was a wrong day to irk a woman :P
DeleteBeautifully written, Jyotsna. Can't agree more :)
ReplyDeleteCool down cool down :) I can understand that sometimes for some reason we do get irked by things which otherwise we would have laughed off... :)
ReplyDeleteHehe.. I am better now Rajlakshmi :) Yes, the timing was absolutely wrong.. ;)
DeleteAMEN TO EACH AND EVERY WORD!!
ReplyDeleteGive us a happy women's LIFE!
Oh yeah !!! Give us a happy women's LIFE :):)
DeleteThat's an interesting perspective and chill, Jyotsna, women contribution and sacrifice are played down. One question for both men and women: Why do we need to sacrifice so much? What about the individuality? I know, this letter was the product of some brainless person..I mean no offense, especially the choco part and loan..ya it's MCP attitude...as far as loan and youthfulness concerned, both men and women sacrifice their lives..I often wonder why home makers are paid..
ReplyDeleteThanks Vishal for the 'interesting perspective'. And some really valid points made here.. I mean, yes, both men and women sacrifice (if you can call it a sacrifice) their lives for building a future together.. wonder when would we overcome the gender bias in the country?? I think you meant, why homemakers arent paid.. And I so absolutely agree to you.. Homemakers are one of the most undervalued people when their contribution is actually very very high.. Lets hope for better times ahead :)
DeleteLoved the line- the HALO on my head would not take time to get converted into some deadly HORNS :P
ReplyDeleteHehe.. Trust me its true ;) :P
Delete