Have you ever noticed those elderly couples around?
The ones with withering bodies, the ones hanging onto each other for support! I
happen to notice a few of them around. The first thing that strikes me about
them is their composure and calmness as a couple. They seem so comfortable in
each other’s presence. Neither is the wife worried about her husband’s hovering
eyes nor the husband over protecting her. No going overboard with showing their
love for each other amidst public places and no hassles or haggles in handling
each other as a couple. Just a state of pure comfort!
What is it that makes them so confident about the
other person that they seem to be in state of perfect harmony? Of course, it is
because of the amount of time they’ve spent with each other. May be, there is
some unknown bond which probably only time can create. They know other person
well, their weakness, their needs, their attitudes and may be that’s how they
have adjusted themselves accordingly.
The other day while in the bus, (yes, I am talking
about my Rickety Ride) I saw an elderly couple seated at the first seat. The
bus was crowded and I stood near them. The conductor came by and asked for the
place for the ticket. The woman opened her purse, took out a few notes and
mumbled something to the conductor. The bus conductor couldn’t understand the
name of the place she mumbled about. Hence he asked her again. Her husband got
the clue and he mentioned the place to the conductor. I wonder how effortlessly
the husband realized that her wife’s mumbling can only be understood only by
him! The entire route, they sat in almost silence. Yet the comfort within them
was so very throbbing. While getting down, the husband asked her to be careful,
even telling the bus driver to not start the bus until she gets down. His
concern, so evident in his voice. It made me smile seeing their beautiful
chemistry.
Yet another day, an elderly couple boarded the
bus. (and this time it’s not my Rickety Ride. Well you see, I happen to travel
on a lot of buses; not that they are my favourite mode of travel, but I happen
to). The husband boarded the bus first and grabbed the first available seat.
The wifey followed and he stood up to allow his wife to sit. There were a few
seats available, though not near his wife’s seat and hence the husband chose to
stand near his wife rather than grab a seat for himself away from her. The wife
kept on pestering him to go and sit somewhere or sit at her place. But he
refused. The best part of their conversation was her coaxing and his refusing which
they did in the most adorable manner. The comfort and the bond was so very
alive between them.
It just warmed my heart to witness that pure
comfort and bliss of togetherness. At times, I want to go and hug them for their
adorableness. Do you find such elderly couples adorable too?
This post is written as a part of April A to Z Challenge
2014 under Non-Themed category. I am doing two posts for this
Challenge and Themed posts can be found here.
I might be close to being half of an "elderly couple" but after so many years, it comes down to each other caring more for the other than themselves. It comes from being kind to each other. After 30 some years, I still like my husband and laugh at his jokes. It takes time and work to be an adorable couple but it is well worth the time and effort.
ReplyDeleteWow Ann.. 30 years??? Its a big big time.. And who better than you can say what is it that makes chemistry between a couple work !!
DeleteI guess as you said over the years they develop a silent bond between themselves and they can understand each other before the other speaks. Yeah, I find them adorable too :)
ReplyDeleteYes, I guess its that.. But they are absolutely adorable :)
DeleteI think it is the understanding that has developed over the years :) My grandparents are such a sweet couple too, but they pretend otherwise at times :D
ReplyDeleteUnderstanding.. Yes.. Thats the most difficult to be achieved, isn't it?? But well, if a couple achieves it, its all worth it..
DeleteI have this stupid habit of weeping whenever I see such beautiful relationships.
ReplyDeleteTrue love does exist man!
Aww.. thats so cute of you Red !!
DeleteI do witness such elderly couples and they inspire . May be the fact that they hav the same bond after all these years is heart warming inspite of day to day struggle
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You are right Afshan, having a bond after so many years is what is inspiring and beautiful both!!
DeleteWhat a sweet observation! My husband and I will definitely be one of those couples when we're elderly... because we are right now. :) Great idea for "E"!
ReplyDeleteNancy at Hungry Enough To Eat Six
How cute Nancy.. I am sure you and your husband will be adorable !! Glad you liked the idea :)
DeleteWww that is indeed very sweet. These incidences just melt my heart... I wanna grow old like that with my husband.
ReplyDeleteAww.. You will Rajlakshmi.. From what I read about your family on your blogs everyday.. You have a super adorable family !!
DeleteKudos for coming up with this heart warming post, Jyotsna, I mean, Ive seen elderly couple, no canoodling but dignified love or holding hands in silence. It is simply beautiful and dignified love:)
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot Vishal.. Yes, there is something very very serene and beautiful about them :)
DeleteI love them! I love the scene from "The Wedding Singer" when Adam Sandler's character sings "I Want To Grow Old With You." It makes me think of my husband and I. We have been together for almost 18 years and we have been together since we were 17. Some days, I think we already act like "the little old couple." Fills my heart with joy!
ReplyDelete18 years ?? That is something .. I hope you continue loving and living beautifully always..
DeleteI remember my grandparents. They were a couple in perfect sync. One always knew other's mind.
ReplyDeleteOh.. how sweet Sugandha !!
DeleteWhenever I see people of our generation squabbling over little things and "breaking up" so easily, I wonder how my grandparents' generation seemed to have it all figured out when it comes to love.
ReplyDeleteI swear I feel that too.. !! I mean how could things be so smooth between them !! I guess our generation is never going to figure that out. Sigh !!
DeleteI love seeing elderly couples showing their love and affection for each other. That's how I want my me and my husband to be! And I think we will :-)
ReplyDeleteYes, they are really cute in that aspect. And I am sure you and your husband would be that cute Linda!! Thanks for the visit :)
DeleteIt's always such a heartwarming feeling to watch them together, the trust and love so well developed over the years. Brilliant post Jyotsna :-)
ReplyDeleteYes, it is absolutely heartwarming to see them together.. Thanks Amrit :)
DeleteI wrote a long comment here... (I don't know why it wasn't published :() Anyway here it is:
ReplyDeleteNice instances you have mentioned here to portray elderly companionship. I too think about them a lot, their years of together, their level of understanding, their love for each other, the bond they share. Long back I wrote a fiction (which I believe is one of the best post I have written) about elderly couple... You have lovely thoughts. Keep it up! :)
They are a treat to watch, aren't they? Thank you so much Shesha :)
DeleteI find elderly couples both sad and inspiring. The strength to weather all the storms of their lives and make it that far is inspirational. To want to be with the same person for that long amazes me and to be willing to work as a team to achieve the longevity of a relationship is awe inspiring. The sadness comes knowing that by the time they have achieved that degree of comfort in each other's presence it is almost at the end.
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You are right, they are inspiring, but I dont know about the sad part Cecilia. I guess its more about the journey than the destination. Yes, its almost the end by the time you reach that level of understanding, but again.. they have their memories to each and every moment of it !!
DeleteSo lovely to read this... yes, sights like this do make you feel happy. I sometimes wonder whether our generation will be able to emulate that generation when we reach the same phase of our lives... or will our constant hunger for something better cripple our relations?
ReplyDeleteTouchwood... we will be as awesome as these couples when the time comes :D
I seriously wonder that too, Roshan!! But, well we can just hope for the best !! Hopefully, we would be like them too.
DeleteThey're so lovable, and they reinforce our faith in relationships !!! :)
ReplyDeleteIndeed they do, Sreeja :)
DeleteWonderful observation & expression, Jyotsna.
ReplyDeleteYes, even I love their awesome chemistry....
Thanks a lot Anita :)
DeleteIt's always nice to see elderly couples still in love. And there are many who still succeed to keep the romance alive, nay, more than romance.
ReplyDeleteSo rightly said Tomichan Sir, it is much more than just romance :)
DeleteSo true Neelam.. Beautiful in every sense !
ReplyDeleteThey are simply adorable. And I feel awful to see an old person alone :( And happy when there's an old couple! It is much more than romance, truly said!
ReplyDeleteYes, seeing them alone is heartbreaking !! And it is beautiful to see their togetherness :) :)
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