Tuesday 1 April 2014

Available in herds ??

Yes, I asked the question of the tittle to myself when I heard views of somebody on women. Somebody, who is educated and works at a good position in an organization. We were having a general conversation about this one girl we knew who was leaving her job since she was getting married someplace else.

And this is what he said. ‘You know that’s why I don’t think women should be educated. The women these days take half of the seats in schools, high end colleges and jobs. And at the end what do they do? They leave their high paying jobs. Isn’t that the sheer waste of seats? First, in schools and colleges and then in jobs as well? I mean, had there been a guy in her place, who would have studied in that good college and gotten himself a job that she landed on, he would have continued the job. He would be taking care of an entire family.’

Logic told me to argue and say that if that girl was leaving a job here, she would take up the job somewhere else too. It’s not that she has wasted entire education of hers. And even if she decides to quit, that cannot be a reason of depriving her of the education. I thought I should tell him about what difference a woman can make in the family if she is educated even though she would not go out and work.

But then sanity took over me and I kept mum. I switched on my plastic smile mode. (the one where I am uttering expletives under my breath and my face has the most angelic smile ever. It comes with practice. Try it sometime.)

Why should I be arguing with a person who doesn’t even has his basics correct? How much difference would I make in his thinking by adding a few arguments? If he had slightest idea of the enormity of the words he was speaking, he wouldn’t be saying them.

And this is not the sole person I know. There is this other gentleman (don’t know if I can call him that) who strongly and staunchly believes that no matter how greater heights I would achieve in my career, I would always remain below my husband. And that I should even accept if my future husband hits me sometime because after all my husband would also love me and hence he has the right to even get angry at me sometimes. Weird isn’t it?   

And what do you argue with such people? It rages you from inside when even the educated lot thinks like that. What could be expected from uneducated ones then?

I don’t know if the Universe is conspiring to make me meet such pea-size brained people again and again. But I tend to find them in herds. Or are they actually available in herds?




This post is written as a part of April A to Z Challenge 2014 under Non-Themed category. Themed posts for this challenge can be found here.


16 comments:

  1. Ignorance is bliss, and arguing with fools comes to no avail. Nice post for the A in the Challenge.

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    1. Yes, arguing with fools is like banging your own head on the wall. Thanks a lot for visiting :)

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  2. It is easier to find acceptability of your opinions when moving in herds. And herds have a way of always picking up the general tones of society. Rebels need effort to persuade these..

    Richa

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  3. The second guy isn't a gentleman at all! Sorry to say this but *insert string of expletives here*. No offense to the girl in your office, but I personally feel women should NOT leave their jobs after getting married. Would any guy do it? Of course not! And even if she does take a job elsewhere, she's the one who has had to make sacrifices for a man (and by extension, society, cos that's what expected of a "good girl").
    To top it all, there's a fraction of people in this country (cos which other country would this happen in, as i always say), they make their daughters go to the best schools and best colleges, only to advertise it in matri sites ki hamari beti is MBA bla bla. And what happens after marriage? Typical Indian husband says "mere pair dabado, din bhar kaam karke aaya hoon".
    Wow, I could go on ranting about this topic (you, of course, know that already!), but I should shut up.

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    1. Whoaaa. babes... You can make an entire post about it.. I know that already about your rants ;) But yes, we live in a hypocrite society.. Precisely my (our) problem with it.. Wish things were better. Sigh !!

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  4. It seems a useless waste of time to argue with someone who will never understand. Yes, smile and move on. Those are not the people for you. Obviously, you don't belong in that herd. The herd mentality is worldwide but some of us live outside the herd. I have never understood how a woman can be controlled by a man but then, I live in a different world where I make my own decisions based on what's best for me and my family. Good thought provoking post.

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    1. Yes Ann, it is a waste of time to argue with such sick people. You are right, you live in a different world which is totally opposite to ours. Thank you for reading :)

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  5. The 2nd guy's opinion was shit.

    The way the 1st guy put his argument was insenstive, but I assume the essence of what he wanted to say was that women are getting an opportunity to carve a future for themselves, and they're working hard to excel, only to give it all up for 'wedded bliss'. That is a huge let down, both for women folk themselves, and those men who believe in women's equality.

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    1. I dont know if the first guy meant good. His tone didnt really bring that out. Anyways. Sure to drop by at your blog soon :)

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  6. People like these are prime example of stupidity .... God, when will they ever move into the modern age?

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    1. I agree Amrit, they are prime examples of stupidity. I really wish, we do see some light !!

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  7. Ignorance is bliss - its really true for some matters.

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  8. These are educated illiterates and have met millions of them... you are not alone..there's one guy who said that he wanted to marry to have a woman who could take care of his parents in the village while he lives and works in Bangalore...Sadly I argued with him... I should have known better!

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    1. Sigh.. Nabanita !! Millions of them.. God knows when would things improve.

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